“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”
I never really understood the meaning of this scripture. How do individuals possibly become ‘one’?
I now understand it to mean, the man and woman become one in mind, body, and heart. They integrate into one another so much so that they are on the same page when it comes to foundational values, future goals, and passion for protecting the relationship from outside influences that may intend to harm the union. This unity is what is to be delighted in and in that brings strength. I see this same concept applying to children.
Children literally come from the body of the mother. The process of life begins with the union of the mother and father. The child is both mother and father but stands as an individual. I think when we make the mistake of not considering children as uniquely belonging to themselves but rather belonging to mother and father it negatively impacts the child by feelings of disappointment, resentment, conditional affection, rejection, and more.
But doesn’t my child belong to me?
He does not belong to me but to his creator. Though he came from my womb and my womb belongs to me, I also belong to my creator. My child is just the same. However, he is my blessed responsibility to guide, protect, nurture, love unconditionally, and provide for. That is my honor. I hope he learns to also honor me but that will remain to make no difference on how I honor and love him. That is motherhood. That is parenthood.